Monday, February 22, 2010

New Friends

It is so nice to watch William come out of his shell more and more all the time. We recently had dinner guests and he took right to Mr. P, after meeting him for the first time. I think hearing and the confidence he is gaining in himself through PT is really a great combination.
Here is a question to those of you with children with "special needs:" How important do you think it is for your child to learn to associate with other children "like themselves?"
I'll explain why I'm asking in a later post...
"A friend loves at all times..." Proverbs 17:17a


  1. My best friend, Andrea, has 2 special needs children. She would be a good person to talk to. You can get to her blog from from mine. If you need help finding her, just e-mail me.

  2. Hmmm... that's an interesting question. On the one hand, I think it is important for Nolan to know some people who wear "ear gear," so that he can have friends who understand what he struggles with on a personal level. And sometimes older "friends" with the same issues can serve as powerful mentors.

    On the other hand, his friends should be the ones HE chooses because they are kind, upright, and loyal. Most of his friends are not going to have hearing loss or other medical struggles, and at some point it is irrelevant. A good friend is a good friend, and I hope Nolan makes several in his life (regardless of physical attributes)!

  3. Leah said it well :0)

    I can only speak for our experience. There were no other HoH/Deaf kids in Tate's school (back when we were in public school) or at church, and it didn't seem to matter to Tate. He's very oral and doesn't think of himself in terms of his hearing loss, nor did he appear to be teased or left out.

    Still, when we attended a weekend "Deaf Camp" he really lit up, seeing all the kids with ear gear - very normalizing, if that's a word.

    But we don't sign, so while all the folks were very friendly, we kind of felt like we were on the fringes of the action.

    I think it's important for ALL of our kids to be around people with disabilities - to be comfortable, to understand people's various challenges. But ultimately, I'm more interested in a person's character than their level of ability/disability.

    I have to kind of keep an eye on this with Tate. It may change as he enters adolescence if he begins to feel self-conscious or "different". But right now it's just not an issue.



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